Women want a man who can control a situation, his emotions, other people – and even her. This may sound very surprising, but yes, a lot of women want to be able to be controlled – they may not realise it as it may be subconscious - by their men.

Hence, women may test their men to see if they will stay in control under difficult situations. If a woman ask you for something, and you do not give it to her directly, it shows great control. And this is exactly what she really wants. Most women do not want a man who will give in to her every fancy and whim. When you do not give a woman exactly what she wants, you are actually giving her what she badly wants - a man who is in control.

Women want a challenge.
If you do not appear too attracted by her, but you are able to be yourself and spin your humour, the woman will start thinking that this guy seems to be “self-confident”, and they will be drawn back to see what else they can find out from this guy. It makes you a challenge.

Most guys fail the test when a woman acts like a spoilt brat. When a woman is upset, they are too apologetic or nervous.

A man has to stay in control. If a woman acts like a spoilt brat, you have to take her in control as you would a spoilt brat.

Often, women are surprised by men who seem uninterested in them. Such men will appear cocky or arrogant to them. They will start thinking, “He is intelligent and humorous. What can I do to get him interested?”

But women also like men who treat them very well. So how do you reconcile the two? How to be slightly “cocky” and yet be a man who treats his woman well?

The trick is: do nice things for them – but on your own terms. Surprise women with a thoughtful card or email, send a surprise gift.

However, many women’s romantic fantasy is a man taking control of the situation and doing things on his terms. For example, the next time you meet a lady for a second date, choose the restaurant, the food and ask her to trust you.



Golden rules when treating women: